The average person checks their smartphone every 6 and 1/2 minutes…that’s comes down to about 150x/day…and that’s average!
Are we addicted? And more importantly, how can we reclaim our time and our life?!
Well, one of the two main reasons people feel compelled to constantly check their mobile device is because the human brain is wired for connection and we like to be in-the-know. In fact, our need for connection is built into our DNA to help ensure our survival as a species. We evolved millions of years ago in tribes – WITH OTHER PEOPLE – and the threat of being isolated from the tribe for whatever reason most certainly would mean death.
Ah, so THAT helps explain FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)! We need to feel like we are included and part of the group. This primal need for connection is built into our DNA to help ensure our survival as a species so social media plays right into that nerve.
Think of it as getting your primal, tribal needs met
For thousands of years, a big part of how we were able to evolve and survive as a species was because we lived in tribes- meaning, with others. Therefore, this need for “togetherness” and belonging was, and still is, programmed in our DNA (the structure of our cells). It enabled us to survive the harsh realities of the environment and world at the time – being isolated surely meant death back in the days of Saber Tooth tigers! While we may no longer have the threat of 600 pound cats with front teeth bigger than my head outside our front door, everyone is very aware of the multitude of sources of stress in our modern day world and the challenges of living in today’s environment.
But here’s the thing: the real connection you’re looking for won’t be found on your tablet or your social media scroll, and this is why technology so addictive.
Sure, modern technology can be great- heck, I use it all the time, but I also do my best to limit it and stay mindful of my time there in order to make sure I make time for real-life, live, in the flesh, face-to-face contact with other human beings- because that’s what we, as humans really want. Plus, research shows that the use of technology and social media is inversely related to feelings of happiness, belonging and contentment. In fact, it actually makes us feel MORE isolated, alone and bad about ourselves. How IRONIC…AND it’s a huge time-suck so you can forget about productivity when you go down that technological rabbit hole!
The real thing you’re looking for is to not feel alone, but rather to feel connected to other human beings and yourself and to have a sense of belonging in the world.
So put down the phone and give yourself what you really need: REAL Connection to other people!
It’s the face-to-face, heart-to-heart, real time with other people- not a piece of technology – that we are really looking for when we log into that social media which instead gives us the illusion and a cheap impression of real connections with people.
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